"RECEIVING"

Say It with Love
A Message to all on the Ascension Path
Maurice Turmel PhD & Higher Self - 12/17/2018

"RECEIVING"

"Receiving is a generous gift to ourselves.  Our Soul says "Open up and I will pour Love through you."  Love from God, it appears, which is abundant and most satisfying.

It is said that only animals and small children know how to receive.  It's a natural state for them, completely instinctual perhaps.  So what happens to us then on our way to adulthood?  How do we learn to shut out that ever flowing fountain from God the Creator?

Something happens when we become obsessed with "making it" by ourselves while trying to control the flow of good into our lives.  This is fear at work.  Fear says "you have to do it all by yourself."  Love says "Come back to Me and I will show you how to reopen that Heart."  So we can once again receive.  But now it has to be a choice.

Perhaps the lesson is this: we are naturally capable of receiving and enjoying the bounty that God and Life have to offer.  To deny ourselves these benefits we actually have to "learn" to close up.  And there is the essence of the "Fall."  We fall from God's grace into turmoil by believing that all suffering is bad and we must close ourselves off from these feelings in order to be safe.  Closed off from suffering means we are also closed off from our Source of supply as well.

Redemption comes through surrender.  By surrendering, that is, by opening up and releasing those so-called safety defences, we regain that capacity to receive.  Sure, we may still suffer at times.  In this Life there are losses and heartaches to grieve alongside receiving the good stuff.  Bitter and Sweet.  Only by accepting this and surrendering to God's grace do we return to that primal reality where all was blissful and without concern.

But now we are adults you see, and not children anymore.  And we know Life can be bittersweet in spite of that loving connection to the Great Creator.  We accept that reality at this juncture because we have grown.  We know what it's like to be without His love and we'd rather be in God's arms than not.  The suffering will pass - it always does.  But the reign the Love remains constant.  Reach out and grab some, won't you?  That's the Spirit!

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The Wonderland of Grief and Loss

The Wonderland of Grief and Loss

Maurice Turmel PhD

The land of Grief and Loss is not a particularly favorable destination but one that we cross paths with on a regular basis throughout our lifetime.  We are rarely ready for this. In our culture, so much has gone into the Denial of Death that we find ourselves at a loss when the real thing comes along.

Let's take a closer look, shall we.

When a death occurs in our sphere of influence, we, the bereaved of the world, find ourselves in some kind of wonderland that we can't explain. This is a special place, an unusual place, outside the mainstream of our regular day to day existence.

We've been thrown into this land called Grief and Loss by the sudden and/or unexpected death of a loved one.  Unexpected here means unprepared, unwitting and most assuredly, unwanted.

We are lost and afraid.  We don't know our way around this territory.  It feels strange.  It feels almost Hollywood like in the same sense that it seems so surreal.

When we land here, unexpectedly, and usually suddenly, we are told by others what to expect, what could happen, and what one might feel under the circumstances.

At the funeral home there are people who travel this road regularly because its their business.  They usually look pale and sad, almost zombie like, because that's the nature of this environment.  The clothes they wear are as dark as the mood they convey. These caretakers of the dead and of us in grief know this journey all too well. They are always quite respectful of we, the uninitiated.  In their world, death and grieving are a straightforward circumstance that they see every day.

To all of us, now in the throes of grief, this death and dying business is an aberration, like falling off a cliff emotionally speaking, something we don't encounter on a regular basis, and therefore, alien to our usual life circumstances. The experience of death and grieving is also something we are often repelled by and dragged into kicking and screaming regardless that it is a mainstay of our collective destiny.

So here we are in this Wonderland called Grief and Loss feeling things we don't want to feel, experiencing emotions that are quite powerful and overwhelming and far outside our usual array of daily life experiences. We are forced by these circumstances to gather in places we don't want to be in, talk about emotions we don't want to discuss, while checking our watches to pinpoint the right moment for our exit.  We are face to face with a deceased loved one, a friend, a partner, a relationship that is now terminally broken.

We will never see this person again.  We will not speak with them, receive emails from them, or connect again in any fashion we had become used to over the course of our lives.  A big hole has opened up inside and it is filling with grief emotions we can't seem to control.

What do we do with ourselves now?  Initially at least we appear to sleepwalk through the process.  These are early days of grief and loss where the emotions are powerful and the mood is dark.  We are surrounded with mists of doubt, feelings of abandonment, self-admonishment perhaps – a whole host of pejoratives that we're busy conjuring up to try and make sense of this reality we now face.

Guilt, shame, sadness and weeping are all part of this process, this wonderland experience.  It is at such times where we find out things about ourselves we'd rather not admit to, things about the deceased we were never privy to, a whole host of revelations that might have remained buried were this person still with us now. The ground underneath us is shaking and continues to move.

Welcome to the Wonderland of Grief and Loss. This place is vastly different from your regular life circumstances and you shall remain here for some time to come.

Time heals all?  Not True!

Time heals if we do the work of acknowledging our feelings and working through them. These powerful emotions are extremes in the feeling range of life and they are upon us like a large dark cloud which has settled in for some time to come, whatever may be the duration of this process.

These extremes of emotional experiencing will pass eventually because all healing processes have beginnings and endings that are somewhat predictable.  As the grieving work is accomplished the dark cloud eventually breaks up and then dissipates.  This is the Wonderland of Grief and Loss.

Your stay in this valley of experience may be brief or long, depending on whom was lost and your attachment to that individual. Such events are always memorable even when filed away in the psychological closets we prefer not to visit. For those open to the experience and willing to embrace what needs to be done, there are lessons here that can deliver growth experiences unattainable anywhere else.

For those of you willing to do the work, make sure you say your prayers, whatever they may be and ask for the guidance and support you truly deserve. That will be forthcoming in whatever form suits you best.

Talk about the loss with your friends.  See a therapist if that's required. Join a grief recovery group. Give yourself every benefit that's readily available.  And this too shall pass. You will survive and you'll grow stronger as a result of having done the work.

That's the message here, dear friends.  The work has to be done or you will drag these ill effects with you far into the future, tainting every aspect of your life experience with this unattended sadness and remorse that simply begs for acknowledgment and release.

If you're still feeling stuck, ask yourself this:

“What would my deceased family member / loved one want for me in this circumstance? How would they want me to proceed?"  Or, if the tables were turned and you were looking at them while they were grieving you, what would you urge them to do for themselves?  Then govern yourself accordingly.

Its an alien place at first, this Wonderland of Grief and Loss – but only at first. Soon we realize that this experience  comes and goes like the seasons and we will pass here many times throughout our life journey before we come to our own final goodbye.

Give yourself what you need and you'll manage it all quite well. Then you'll be surprised at how quickly the grieving recedes once you've undertaken the healing process as a whole.  The smiles will be back.  The joy of living will return. Even your lost loved one will come to be viewed as an asset in the winding journey of your life, a person now easily called to memory with fondness and love. Win Win!

"When Angels Call - Coping With Grief and Loss"

Maurice Turmel PhD

Heal Your Wounded Heart

Peggy Black and the Team: Heal the Wounded Heart 

Peggy Black and the ‘Team’
www.morningmessages.com

We are here embracing and empowering you as you hold and anchor the new reality. You are pioneers as it were, moving across the landscape of vibrations and frequencies. You are beginning to own that you are truly transformers, bringers of light, energy alchemists.

As you personally as well as collectively stand strong in this knowing and in your service, holding the vision of a reality and a planet of conscious awake and aware humans, it is coming into form. More and more individuals are realizing that they personally make a difference, by the power of their focused intentions, by their dedicated actions which support all life. There have been waves and waves of energy vibrations bathing your planet. This energy, these vibrations and frequencies have been triggering the incredible shift in consciousness you are experiencing; you are witnessing the changes within yourself as well as the results within the collective.

This shift within and this offering of integration is happening between your highest galactic and celestial self and the physical form you dwell in at this time. There is a merger, there is a partnership, and there is an expansion. You are feeling this in the changes in your physical body as well as in your thoughts, dreams and meditations. You are being recalibrated so to speak. You are noticing more synchronicities occurring in your life. Reality is not as solid as it once seemed.

We are once again here to support you in this expansion and in your new partnership. New doors of awareness are opening for you. As you allow and acknowledge your celestial self merging with the physical self, you step into a position of compassionate power. You begin to understand that the physical body is a tool and an interface with this dense reality. This divine partnership between your galactic self and your physical self begins to reveal your true mission and purpose. We invite you to begin to listen and ask for this to be revealed.

It is especially important now for you to own and recognize one of the most powerful tools of transformation that is available. We have shared this powerful alchemical tool with you many times, each time planting the seeds for this to be fully integrated into your awareness.

We suggest you roll up your spiritual sleeves and begin the work and allow the task to be done. You will discover that it will be far easier than you could imagine. You as human are being called to release long held grief, sadness, judgments, regrets of decisions and any emotions that are dense, discordant or conflicted. It is important to allow and consciously engage in the release, healing, and transformation of dense low vibrating emotional energy that you have experienced in your physical body and life.

We continue to remind you that your heart’s electrical field is sixty time greater in amplitude than the electrical activity generated by your brain. The magnetic field radiating from the heart is thousands of times more expansive in strength than the energy frequencies generated by the physical brain. Your heart is a portal; your heart is a gateway that connects you to your galactic self, to one another, to the matrix of this planet, to all dimensions and the stars. It is the intelligence of your heart that offers personal and global healing.

It is within the sacred heart that the alchemical process of transformation takes place. This is where there is a merger of all that is. This is the chalice that holds truth and wisdom. As a galactic citizen, a celestial being it is important that you heal, transform and release the physical human grief, sadness and regret which you are carrying in your heart. First your physical life will reflect this healing; more important, however, is that the portal of your heart will be clear and receptive to the divine connection, your divine guidance and you will radiate coherent emotions into the weaving of this planet’s matrix.

This is work for all humans, for it is the heart that makes the connection with others and with the divine. If the heart of the physical human is energetically congested with old emotions of hurt or grief or distrust then the richer and fuller connection with divine is distorted. In some cases the heart is energetically closed to others therefore it is closed to the divine.
It is time that humanity heals the wounded heart.

We acknowledge that the feeling of emotions is wonderful, powerful, and the expansive means to connect with your true and noble self. You take for granted this sensation of feelings, of emotions. Some choose to hide their feelings or emotions from themselves as well as from others most of their life. Emotions play a very valuable and important role in the development of the human. Emotions are the language of this reality. It is emotions that motivate or halt any activity, emotions that warn of danger, and emotions that connect you to your beloved.

It is now common knowledge that your feelings and emotional vibrations move through your body and your mind, triggering chemical reactions, affecting the muscle tone, heart rate, blood pressure, as well as stirring up mental pictures, thoughts, beliefs and stored programs. Emotions are frequencies; they are vibrations which are translated and interpreted by your learned beliefs about what is happening in your reality. Many times it may feel as if you are at the mercy of your emotions, rather than understanding your power of invoking a higher vibration of emotions from within yourself. You allow the outside reality to impose and trigger emotions that do not support who you truly are.

When you first arrived in physical form, everything you were exposed to made its impression. Your parents and family added emotional vibrations; the interaction with society added their strokes and frequency. There are times when you react from these emotions that have been programmed into your system by others. Remember to stop for a moment and review your reaction to any event or experience, and refresh how you respond.

Realize that you are the generator of all emotions, that you control your reaction to anyone and any situation; begin to see the emotions that you allow to run you, the emotions that are not pleasant, and the emotions that do not support your well-being and expanded self expression. Shift those emotions as soon as possible. Generate from within a different emotion. Find an emotion that feels better; allow it to flood your experience.

With courage consciously begin to transform any emotion that is life diminishing. Focus your awareness in the chalice of the heart, the place of true transforming alchemy. Offer whatever emotion you are intending to heal, release and transmute to be held in the energy field of your sacred heart space. Breathe into this emotion, and allow a sound to express what you are feeling and allow the vibrations to shift from an incoherent frequency to a coherent smooth vibration that is life sustaining. We support and encourage you to energetically and emotionally clean out your heart space. Polish it, shine it up, air it out and begin to live there.

Each multidimensional starhuman touches the Divine Source in the intelligent, sacred heart space. This is your power source; even though it is a physical organ that supports your life, it is also an energetic portal for divine connection. You heart beat and rhythm are connected to the vibrations of the planet, influenced by the solar flares and other planetary offerings. It is your mission, your purpose to consciously use this power source to radiate love and appreciation to all, every moment, every day. This is truly the highest service work that can be done.

It is the intelligence of the heart that will guide and uplift you in all your actions. Practice asking your heart before you ask your mind. Practice bridging and connecting the heart’s intelligence with the brain’s intelligence. Practice calling your divine self to meet you in your heart space. Envision this upon awakening and throughout your day. Practice bringing up new emotions of joy, playfulness, and lightheartedness.

Practice finding those emotions of gratitude and appreciation. Practice acceptance and compassion for your neighbors, the stranger on the street, the homeless dirty individual you encounter, expand it to include all humanity in all its diverse and unique manifestations.

There are studies being done and they now have scientific proof that the vibrations and frequencies of collective emotions can be sensed and measured. When tremendous fear or grief is offered by humanity it shows up on the sensors that have been placed around the planet. This emotional wave of fear or grief truly affects the matrix. It is so important for you to realize and own that when you practice heart consciousness it affects your health, your family, friends, surroundings and the global matrix.

Step into a place of power within yourself in which you are the one who chooses the emotional flavor of the experience rather than an automatic emotional response. Play with this….make sure you do a mental and emotional check with yourself…ask yourself what am I feeling right now. If your feelings are low dense vibrations of worry, concern, judgment shift them immediately, replace them with an emotion that feels better.

We invite you to begin to own this power and to practice a daily exercise; we echo this wisdom of the ancients. Make sure that you are anchored into your physical body and anchored to the electromagnetic field of this planet and connected to your celestial divine source. Once you have done that, it is quite simple: place your awareness in your heart and touch your physical body in the area of your heart, which will allow your focus of attention to be there. Now just relax, take several deep breaths and then begin to find a feeling nature of gratitude and appreciation. Hold that feeling of gratitude and appreciation for several minutes; in your imagination see this vibration radiating out from your heart and encircling the planet. You will begin to notice a shift in your own physical well-being and you will be contributing to the uplifting of the energy field of humanity.

We offer another simple tool to shift your busy mind that engages in worry. You can recite these simple words given to humanity from another beloved teacher. I am grateful, I am grateful, I am grateful with every beat of my heart and every breath that I take I am grateful. Repeat until the mind is still and you have returned to your heart.

Practice radiating unconditional love, joy, gratitude and appreciation from the heart not from the mind.Allow yourself to journey and focus within your sacred heart space; dwell there. Allow yourself to realize how powerful your heart chalice truly is. Allow yourself to see your sacred heart space as spacious, infinite, expanded and whole. It is your touchstone to your celestial and galactic self. It is your connection to the global matrix. It is your link to the cosmic grid. It is your way home.

We encourage you to reach for experiences that lighten your heart. Bring in joy, appreciation, and gratitude as often as possible; radiate that blessed emotional frequency of grace to bathe everything and everyone. It is important to love and honor yourself. It is important to forgive yourself and forgive others. It is important to step with joy and appreciation into your day. It is important to bring joy with you in all that you do or offer. You are a world server…serve with gratitude and joy. All things will follow.

We join you in the consciousness of your sacred heart. It is our honor to support and serve you in your awareness of who you truly are. You are powerful beyond measure; claim this and shine it forth. With our deep gratitude and love the The ‘team’

The Many Faces of Grief and Loss

The Many Faces of Grief and Loss
by Maurice Turmel PhD

Grief and loss is a broad category that encompasses death and dying, grief recovery, grief resources and every type of loss imaginable. From losing a loved one to losing your job, grief and loss includes a variety of dimensions that affect each and every one of us in our daily lives.

The predominant category is loss of a loved one, of course. Death is the first thing that comes to mind when grief and loss are being discussed. But this particular experience can also emerge when we breakup with a lover, lose a pet or get fired from our employment. When the grief experience strikes, recovery is what preoccupies us the most.

We now understand that losing a loved one is only one aspect of grief and loss. Relationship breakups, divorce, loss of the family pet, getting fired and losing a business are all causes that generate the grief and loss experience. Such losses are rarely associated with the main grieving category, but in fact, they do share many common denominators as the primary experience of death of a loved one.

What is central to this article is that grief and loss affects us in almost every aspect of our lives. We recoil over the loss of a job. We fall into depression over the loss of our home. We grieve the death of our pets. We agonize over a recent divorce. And of course, we cry over the loss of loved ones.

What is our point here with this foray into the multiple dimensions of grief and loss? We are dealing with an emotional crisis and a feeling based wound. We experience sadness, depression and hurt. Feeling lost and afraid is common. Anger usually arrives first, till we discover what's underneath, and pain is what we wish to avoid, initially. All such reactions are quite typical with the experience of grief and loss.

Grief and loss, as a life experience, emerges in many aspects of our lives. Learning to relieve ourselves of stress via relevant grief recovery programs can have far reaching benefits. Recovering our usual bounce and drive is a worthy goal and significant benefit in grief recovery. Whatever we learn about dealing with grief and loss can be applied across its many dimensions and occurences.

The cycle of life includes gaining, losing and gaining again. For example, when a snake crawls into the tall grass to shed its old skin, it's because the new is emerging from underneath and pressing for release. Losses are typically categorized as devastating when, in fact, they are often a prelude to something better. Learning to let go, no matter what the cicumstances is a valuable life lesson.

Our biggest loss is always the death of a loved one. On a well known stress scale, this type of loss is just ahead of divorce and moving, two more examples of grief and loss. Learning to manage our daily losses, big and small, can well equip us for dealing with the big one when it inevitably strikes. A good grief resource becomes our most valuable guide during such circumstances and will lead us toward a healthy recovery.

Recovery from grief and loss, in all its varied forms, requires that we deal with our emotions. When we are emotionally vulnerable we can find a deeper meaning to life and acquire new and lasting friendships where we initially saw hurt and sorrow. Every loss carries a benefit, even if it takes years to uncover. Letting go emerges as grief and loss' primary lesson.

Counseling for Grief Recovery

Counseling for Grief Recovery

Maurice Turmel PhD

When I was in private practice I saw a lot of individuals who were grieving the loss of a loved one, whether that was a child, a spouse, a parent or a close friend. On a few occasions I saw couples where one of them had been diagnosed with a terminal condition and had less than 6 months to live. These situations were particularly traumatic for the persons involved, especially for the spouse who was not ill.

These couples, with the terminally ill partner, needed to work through feelings about their situation and the practical steps necessary to prepare for the inevitable. The terminally ill partner seemed to have an easier time with the process once they had accepted the reality of their death. When my brother-in-law was diagnosed with terminal cancer, I witnessed the same effects taking place for he and my sister. Broadly speaking, it was always the surviving partner that had the toughest time.

With counselling of any sort, the goal is to LISTEN! Not just the hear the words an individual was speaking, but to identify the Feelings behind them. When I would reflect back to the individual I always began with sounds like youre feeling " sad, angry, scared, anxious, depressed " whatever it was they were conveying. I would then ask them to check in to see if what I said was accurate. It usually was.

Then I would instruct them to pay attention to that particular feeling and tell me more about it. They would then describe their feelings in detail along with whatever physical reactions might be attached to it. Tears would begin to flow as they related the physical and emotional reactions they were experiencing. This was the essence of my counselling approach for persons in grief, no matter what the precipitating circumstances.

It was not unusual for clients to ask about Stages of Grief and/or some theory they had heard about in their research on the matter. As interesting as this might be, I would point out that anything that distracted them from their feelings was a waste of their recovery efforts. In contrast, anything that helped them focus on feelings would always be the most beneficial. After a few challenging sessions, where painful feelings were addressed and released, the client would realize that this was the path to recovery. Not only that, but learning to identify, describe and release feelings as a general practice, would have benefits far beyond their successful grief recovery.

We are programmed toward externals by our various sources of news that like to talk about charts, graphs, theories and stages. These tantalizing tidbits are geared toward boosting ratings or adding another "Top Ten Ways to Heal Grief" book to the self-help section of bookstores. A helpful grief recovery resource will focus on Internals, such as feelings and emotions, because that's always where the hurt lies. Our Heart and Feeling Center determines the quality of our life and tells us when we are hurting. By focusing inward we identify and release feelings, along with the associated pain. Writing in a journal, listening to good music, reading heart-centered poetry will put you in touch with Your Heart because that's where healing actually happens.

A well written grief recovery book can become an excellent counselling companion as long as it is designed to put you in touch with your feelings. A fully narrated grief resource can take you even further. Since the feelings associated with grief and bereavement are so intense, youre practically there. Just a little push and the guidance counselling resource book and youre on your way. For most of us, all we need is Permission to Feel. Our heart and soul will take it from there because we have engaged our body and feeling natures innate healing capability.

With any recovery process there can be many distractions along the way. In the case of grief recovery these can come in the form of stages, charts and graphs that are intellectually interesting but have no value in terms of your grief recovery. Most religions, even though well-intentioned, fall short on this matter as well. A good grief resource, counselor or support group can help you focus on the heart of the matter which is your feeling nature. Externals, even when interesting, can detract you from the task at hand - healing your broken heart.

You now have what you need to heal your grief. You will recover from this tragedy and great loss. You will become intimately acquainted with your Heart and Feeling Centre. You will come to a point where you can think about your loved one and smile. Because when the hurt is finally healed, what remains with you is the love you carry in your heart, and that is forever.